New Moms: How to Sort Out the Bombardment of Advice

For many women, pregnancy brings about a lot of excitement and happiness. Unfortunately, it can also bring about fears and trepidation which can lead to an immense amount of stress.

One of the big sources of stress for new mothers is sorting through all the immense amounts of advice they are given from friends, family members, neighbors, doctors – you name it. Because the last thing any new mother needs is to be overwhelmed with stress and possible anxieties, we wanted to make a simple list of ways you can sort through all the advice you are bombarded with as a new mom:

– Remember that no one knows your body better than yourself. You know how it works and what makes you feel comfortable, so utilize that information.

– Be sure to have your partner talk about the advice you are given with you. It is not only important for him to be involved in the new journey, but some of his own concerns can be brought up as well.

– Do your research on how to parent and even what baby products to buy. You may not know everything, but it’s always good to have a little background knowledge on different things.

– If a piece of advice is taken out of context or comes across as extreme, take it with a grain of salt and keep looking for more advice elsewhere. It’s important not to put all your eggs in one basket when it comes to being a mom.

– There is no timeline when it comes to motherhood. Some feel like they are experts after their first child while others may not feel like veterans until their third or fourth child. Don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t doing something right because it’s taking longer than expected.

– Balance is important for everyone, especially new moms who could use all the support available.

– Lastly, know that anything said to you as a new mom is not meant as criticism. People mean well and want the best for you and your child. If something is taken out of context or comes across wrong, don’t be afraid to clear it up with whoever said it in the first place! Remember: we’re all here to learn and to help.

If you’re struggling with how to balance your time with work, family, friends, sleep, etc., it’s important not to let the stress of being a new mom overwhelm you. Remember that no one knows what they are doing completely. Everyone has their own struggles so take what you hear with a grain of salt and know that you are not alone.